Wednesday, December 20, 2006

5w5d - 1st u/s

OK - that was a freaky afternoon.

DH and I went to see my ob/gyn for our 1st u/s. The ultrasound woman used to work at an IVF center - cool. Sees a sac right away - only one - cool. She says that the u/s machine doesn't measure below 5w so she can't get a measurement. Interesting because I'm theoretically 5w5d. And then she checks out my tubes & ovaries just to make sure everything looks OK. Tubes OK. Ovaries OK. Oh wait - there is something near the ovary that isn't attached, but she can't quite see what it is. 5 minutes later of pressing on my sensitive cervix (ouch!) she still isn't sure what it is. Could be ectopic but without better machine it's hard to say. And the entire time she wouldn't move the display over for me to see - so I didn't get to see anything. Grrrr. She did give eventually us a copy of pic after I asked for it - twice. DH thinks that it looks like a smiling fish. So it's now called Fish.

So I get dressed and we go to talk to the ob/gyn. First she has to go on & on about why it's so horrible that they HAD to do the u/s and my RE didn't do it. I tried to explain that he was up in NYC and this was much easier for us and she said - well they should have kept you up there until they released you. Huh? This was from the woman who did my initial IF workup 2 years ago - thought I'd get some compassion. None. Sounded like she was trying to CYA. Why did you ever agree to do it then? Then she says that she wants a followup u/s with another doctor (a specialist?) and some bloodwork (another hcg) to see "just what they've got on their hands" because they have nooooo idea. Bitch - ask me anything you want to know. Better yet, don't do me any favors - I'll find someone else. But I was very nice (DH was surprised at how nice I was) and went along with all of it. For now.

Then the nurse was trying to draw my blood. My veins still look beat up so she kept wanting to see the other one. Trust me - I've been stuck many many time and I know that this one is way better. And then the other nurse & u/s tech (remember - who used to work at an IVF center) were asking me about my LMP. I should have simply said 11/10 - end of discussion - but I forgot to bring my calendar with me and couldn't remember off the top of my head so I did some calculating out loud. Bad move. They both were 110% convinced that LMP was 14 days prior to transfer - which is fine that they get it wrong - but they had such a bitchy attitude about it and how there was no possible way that I was right about it. Listen, bitches, I've been living & breathing IVF for the past 12 months - cut me a break. At least be nice about it and show a little respect - try not to be rude to me in my face. At least wait until my back is turned.

Anyway, so the other doctor with the better u/s machine was going to be able to squeeze us in that day. Cool. So we go over there (right next door) and wait around until they have a slot open. Very nice u/s machine - flat panel on the wall too. Cool. Eventually he comes in and introduces himself. Both DH and I think he was stoned. Majorly stoned. He checked out Fish with his fancy equipment - very cool! - and measured him at ~5w1-2d. Which is pretty close - maybe because my initial beta was low he's just a late bloomer? Zoomed in and saw a very clear sac & yolk sac. Cool! Then he's done. But.....what about that questionable thing? Oh - I'm sure it was just a cyst - maybe your corpus luteum - because you need that to support the initial part of PG. Ummmm....but I thought my CL gets zapped when my follicles were aspirated (and why I need the PITA PIO shots?). So you're not going to check? Are you feeling any pain? Ummm....no, but isn't that why we are over here? WTF? And I guess no nice pic from your fancy machine? Guess you have to hurry back for another bong hit?

So we just ran out of that building. And seriously doubt that I'll go back there again. We might try my old RE or even that overly expensive RE. And I'm definitely finding a new ob/gyn. My very patient & understanding DH even thought she was a major bitch and that we should switch.

So I guess I'll call my NYC RE tomorrow and give him the news. And since it's hard for me to blog without any visuals, here is a pic of Fish.

11 comments:

MzMannerz said...

~waving to Fish~

What an afternoon! Your OB sounds like a piece of work. Good luck on finding someone new!

V. excited about Fish!

Anonymous said...

Over all a very positive day. You got to see your baby. Sorry the doctors were sucking so much!! Did you ask your RE if you could go to a radiology center for an ultrasound? My OB does not have an ultrasound machine, so they send me to Fairfax Radiology or Fairfax hospital, both have been very good. That way you don't have to go to one of the REs. Also, if you are looking for an OB, I really like this practice. C.K. sent me there. Anyway, yay for a picture of fish!!!

N.C.

Kim said...

YAY Fish!!! I'm so happy that everything looked good. But wow - you should definitely find a new OB. That's nuts!

KelleyO said...

Wow- you'll have to tell me which doctor it was...

you know I go to them, too, and they never remembered our fertility issues and why it was exactly that I knew exactly when we conceived...ugh! I did find them not particularly interested in that whole side of things and I felt "not heard" at the beginning- which after going through IVF I know would be much, much worse. I'm sorry about the day but happy about FISH!

Anonymous said...

I wish today could have been as it should have been - a more enjoyable experience than you had.

Great news and proof that you are having a baby (Fish!)
So great to see little Fish today!

I can't wait but am also very nervous about my first scan due Friday 5th Jan - when I should be 8 weeks.

I hope your next scan is a much calmer and happier time for you both.

Take care of yourself and little Fish!

Love Amanda Blue Sky :)

serenity said...

YAY Fish! What a freaky afternoon, yeah, I'd not go back there either...

Bea said...

O...kay... well, hopefully the next visit (whoever it's with) will go much better.

Bea

lola said...

Well hello little Fish!! Glad to see you :)

I'm sorry you had such a stressful day, I can't imagine being shuffled around like that. I hope your OB was just having a bad day and that she doesn't continue to treat you like this!

I'll be 5wks 5days at my u/s tomorrow so it will be interesting to see what kind of measurements they get. I'm just hoping to see one or two sacs in the right place!

gabby said...

There needs to be a mandatory course taught to OB/GYNs about dealing with IF pts b/c A. We know waaaaayyyy more than you do B. We've been though waaaayyyyy more than your normal pts C. I can't believe you need a course in compassion but obviously, you do.
I hope you find a new person to monitor fish!

Southern Comfortable said...

Fish! I love it!

Sounds like a terrible experience with the doctors. I hae no idea why medical personnel can't be a little more compassionate. Yes, they see all of this every day, but they need to understand that each patient has her own concerns. And for Pete's sake-- if they know you've been an IVF patient, can't they be a little more sensitive??

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